Get married again!

Among all my posts, the most viewed and read would be the one on Band Baaja Bride, a reality show on NDTV Goodtimes. The show gives to-be-wed-couples a chance to have a dream wedding: right from getting personal care to having a designer bridal jewelry and attire. The show has completed five seasons since then and has improvised quite a bit with their format whilst keeping the original theme constant.

I've moved away from the idiot box for a long time now, thereby do not patronize any particular show but the shows on Goodtimes still compel me for a brief stopover on the rare occasion when I take a trip with the TV remote. This afternoon was one such time when I watched this show as they aired their closing episode of season 5. What was unique about the episode was that the couple to wed on screen were already married for a decade and wanted to celebrate their tenth wedding anniversary by renewing their vows, in their own words, to recreate the magic that seemed to have gone missing in the humdrum of routine life.

The idea in itself is not new as per Hindu tradition. There is a ceremony, called Shashtiabdapoorti, wherein a married couple renews their wedding vows as the husband turns sixty years of age. However, the point is, why wait until the man turns sixty? And, let's not get into the battle of 'why not when the wife turns sixty'? The crux is to take the essence of bringing back the spark in the couple's relationship.

Life is getting busier, faster, more stressful and the odds of the couple drifting apart much before that is a scary reality. Think about it, once the wedding euphoria slides off, the couple is faced with the daily pressure of balancing work and life like the hands on the clock; they meet very briefly during the every-day marathon. A few years into the marriage,  kids and a couple of EMIs thrown in, all the intimacy, romance and togetherness goes flying out of the window.

Isn't it then a great idea to review and take stock of the relationship every now and then? It doesn't have to be as dramatic as to appear on a tele-show or even anything grand. Simply, take a vacation to a place you've never been before. Do something you've never done together before, like say, scuba-diving or even a salsa class. Challenge your limits and break open that shell all over again. Re-discover that magic. And, it isn't a bad idea to get married all over again to mark a special anniversary.

Seriously, very few couples have their  actual wedding completely under their control and live up to it every moment. You can seize the opportunity to re-chart your wedding day that way you had imagined, buy new jewelry and clothes, look relaxed, have the natural glow on your face without the first-time anxiousness and revel in the comfort factor shared with the spouse in the true sense.

So, are you game to renew your vows?

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36 comments:

  1. I think that is a lovely idea! But, given my husband's propensity to shy away from social events, the recreated wedding will probably involve just the two of us away on a vacation somewhere :) I kind of assume I would like it that way too :) Very true that we don't need to wait for the occasion. let's make it happen proactively!

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    1. Wouldn't that be wonderful, just the two of you getting married all over again sans the crowd and madness? Do that :-)

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  2. Very well expressed Uma! Keeping the magic alive or renewing it is indeed important!

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    1. Yes, indeed, Priya. The 'how' is left to the couple but the will and commitment to keep the love going needs to be there. Thanks for the read and the follow, Priya. Good to have you here :-)

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  3. Oh wow you have the same template as I do ... Well, on the point of marrying again well I think it is a fun idea...Only my Husband and I are too lazy to do it again :)

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    1. Is it?...will hop over to yours in a bit :-) Ah, second-time wedding is left to the couple's fancy and btw, it need not be with all the frills, you see :-)

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  4. A quiet getaway to renew the vows seems like a good idea but a remarriage with all the pomp - no way. I barely survived the original thing - the long drawn out ceremonies, the heat and the dressing up, lord the dressing up. I might be tempted if we were allowed to come in jeans and tees.

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    1. Haha...of course the first time is always stressful because we toed the line drawn by others. The second-time though it can be the way you want. Jeans is great too! I'd prefer the quiet getaway to renew the vows too :-)

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  5. Wow! Loved the idea, Uma. I think, every couple who has gotten stuck in a rut after many years of togetherness must 'get married again'! :)

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    1. Yes, shilpa..a rejuvenation and rejig of sorts is needed in every relationship that slips into an semi-conscious state :-)

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  6. This is a wonderful idea and I am doing this in 9 years :D Life happens and one cannot blame either of the couple to have made the relationship stagnant. Even they get along just fine, this would take a lot of burden off them when they are struggling to figure out how to tell their loved ones, "they still do" in more creative ways :)

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    1. Cool, Keirthana! I want to usher in the milestone of a decade in a special way too..that's two years away..do you think it's too early to plan? ;-)

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  7. Nice to read and the way to go for couples to renew the wows in style every five years.As you have rightly mentioned, the couple of EMIs with more as children grow up, that really stands in the way of big celebrations,I think

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  8. Uma,, loved your post very much. it is a brilliant idea that a couple must renew their marriage vows. We have repeated our vows twice with lots of funfare,,We celebrated our silver and golden anniversaries with great fun along with children and grand children.

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    1. That's wonderful to hear that you got a chance to celebrate your special anniversaries with family, Usha mam. Glad to know the post resonated with you :-)

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  9. will it be with the same woman :) he he he he

    renewing vows is quiet common here and I am sure it renews the relation toooo

    lovely post

    Bikram's

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    1. LOL, Bikram...adding variety for spice...beware, you might have to remember many more anniversaries and *shudder* renew as many times too! ;-)

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  10. Yeah, it is such a great idea! I would love to renew our wedding vows. Hey, I think we should renew the vow at the same location where we got married to make it more romantic. I had booked a pretty Wedding location in Chicago.

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